Getting your point across can be done in many ways. The best way explains what you mean, why you mean it and what you are expecting in return. This kind of communication invites the other person to do the same.
Here are a few reasons why this is important.
1) Maintains openness. When you invite another person to communicate in the same way you are, you show empathy for that person’s point of view. You are saying “I want to hear what you have to say. It’s important to me.”
2) Opens discussion. By telling someone you are interested in what they have to say, you are asking them to participate. It’s hard to say no to an invitation to clarify something, especially when the other person is asking for explanations.
3) Builds teamwork. Good communication brings people together. When you work with each other everyone achieves more.
4) Builds trust. By asking the other person to share their thoughts and feelings, you are saying that you want and need more information. You are also offering to provide more information. This reinforces trust.
Here are two tips to help you get to the right communication.
1) The level of conversation. This is very important. The way you talk with a five-year-old about how to share is not the same as the way you need to approach a 30-year-old about joint responsibilities. The basic ideas may be the same, but you have to match your words to the person you are speaking to. In other words, don’t talk down to people and don’t talk up to people.
2) Explain your emotions. This is far more important than most people realize. It only takes a sentence or two. “I’m pretty upset right now. I need to vent.” That’s enough explanation because you’re owning your feelings and not making a personal attack. This allows the other person not to overreact.
If you want to learn to communicate better, I’m here to help.