If I am honest, I’m really a terrible planner. I have a general idea of where I want to go but I’ve never been very good at specific to-do lists. Most of my life I have been able to fly by the seat of my pants.
This was even true when it came to my wedding. I lived in Georgia but was getting married in Los Angeles. I had some general ideas of what I wanted but left most of the details to my mom. It turned out great.
All this is to say that I’m not one to talk about the need to schedule and plot every moment of your life. (Anyone who knows the strange trajectory of my professional life is nodding their heads right now.)
But one thing I am always struck by is the people who design their wedding day down to the last detail are often the ones who give limited thought to their actual marriages. This was brought home once more when someone close to Anna Faris and Chris Pratt revealed that “they really didn’t have a road map for what this all would be like”.
A lot of things tell me they aren’t alone. So, my question is, “Do you have a road map for your marriage?”
The truth is that most people don’t think they need one. They fall in love and think that will be enough. This leaves them unprepared when they hit the inevitable bumps in the road that life delivers.
Another thing is that most people don’t know how to go about making one. School counselors are there to guide your educational choices. Career Counseling and Placement centers help you find a job. Financial Planners are a resource for managing your money.
When it comes to love and marriage, there isn’t any required class or course of study available. The only options seem to be either the school of hard knocks or Pre-Marital/Marriage Counseling. Unfortunately, there is a stigma associated with the latter that doesn’t seem to be there for anything associated with careers or money management. So, most end up using the first. Often, over and over again.
The truth is that almost everyone is associated with marriage in some way or another. Most likely, you are, have been or want to be married. Your parents probably were, whether it lasted or not.
Doesn’t it make sense to learn something about it? Wouldn’t it be helpful to go in with at least a general idea of what it’s all about?
Having a plan for your marriage, even a general one, can keep you going in the right direction.
If it works in other areas of your life, it will work in this one, too.