When you take the focus off you and focus on what you believe your partner isn’t doing, you give yourself permission to do less than what you agreed to do. And that is what gets a lot of couples into trouble.

Instead of doing what you know is best for your marriage, you give yourself reasons why it’s okay not to. You work hard and you’re tired. Besides she didn’t do something she promised to do so why should you?

This is the beginning of the marriage death spiral that is scorekeeping. You won’t do something because she doesn’t. She won’t do something because you don’t. You both are so busy making sure you don’t do anything “extra” that you don’t notice your relationship circling the drain.

Instead of seeing things as unfairly benefiting your undeserving partner, try thinking about it as a win for your marriage. When you do loving and generous things for your wife, your marriage benefits.

And every marriage needs a hero. Someone who will go first and lead the way to a happier, more compassionate relationship you both want to be part of.

The added benefit—she will stop scorekeeping too. It won’t be an issue because you will have created the relationship you intended to have on that day you both said “I do”. 

If you’re ready to have a championship marriage, let’s talk.

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