“Love is like a puzzle. It can be unboxed by most but understood and built by little.” Juan Menjiver
I love puzzles. Of all kinds. Jigsaws, Crosswords, Jumbles. You name it.
Mysteries in books and T.V. are my favorite genre.
I love trying to figure things out. Putting the pieces together to see what’s really happening.
It’s why I love focusing on relationships. For me, it’s all about putting the pieces in the right places so the bigger picture is revealed.
And, for me, marriage is the ultimate puzzle.
You and your partner provide both the pieces and the structure. That’s what makes it fun and, often, frustrating.
The fun part is taking all the pieces you each bring and putting them together to form a picture you both like.
The frustrating part is that you don’t have that picture to start with. So in addition to the puzzle, there’s a bit of a Scavenger Hunt thrown in. You have to decide which pieces you already have are important to keep as well as which ones you still need to find.
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Your marriage forms the frame using the outside pieces. These are the parameters you can’t change like your age, height, past experiences, personality, natural abilities, etc.
The inside pieces are everything else.
Most marriage puzzles will have common sections: money, lifestyle, communication, intimacy, friends and family, and, maybe, children. But how you put those pieces together will be unique to your marriage.
The challenge comes in when you and your partner can’t decide what those sections look like or what pieces belong in them.
And sometimes the pieces you try to put together don’t really fit. They might seem to at first, but as you continue to put the rest of the puzzle together, you realize that piece is in the wrong place.
The truth is that the picture, the puzzle you’re putting together, is never finished. You both will be adding and taking away pieces. But, if the frame is strong enough, the picture will hold.
However, if you’re missing some important pieces, the picture will be harder to see and, therefore, harder to bring to life.
If you want some guidance from a puzzle expert to create a marriage picture you both love, let me know.
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