Getting clarity is difficult when there are so many moving parts and so many people involved. This leaves you open to confusion. To putting off a decision. To keep searching and asking those you trust for a solution that will please everyone.

And that’s part of the problem. Those close to you can’t be objective. They are influenced by their relationship to you as well as their own life experience.

More than likely, they want you to be happy. But when you’re facing challenges in your relationship, neither of you may know what that looks like. Ending the relationship? Sticking it out? Taking steps to make it better? 

And the criteria of “happy” is often a false one. “Happy” is temporary. You were happy in your relationship once.

You need to figure out what you want. Not what is easiest. Or what is right for someone else. Even if you have no idea how to make it happen. Once you get clear, then you can formulate a plan. You can get the help you need to implement that plan, but you have to decide your direction first.

I chose another PC because it’s what I’ve always used. Starting over with something new did not appeal to me. The cost would also have been greater with a Mac. Even though it’s frustrating at the moment, it will smooth out. I’ll get back to normal faster because the learning curve won’t be so high.

You might want to choose to stay with what you know as well. You can make it better. An improved marriage without having to start over. It will also be cheaper in the long run.

So, the only question you need to answer is, “What do I want?”

What is your biggest question about marriage? Share it with me and I’ll personally respond to you.

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