Actually there are many two word combinations I can think of as 2022 comes to an end.
Good riddance.
So long.
See ya.
F*** Off.
Thank you.
Maybe that last option is a bit of a surprise. But it goes along with my two words: gratitude and helpless. And there is a huge connection between those for me.
Gratitude is one that I usually feel as another year comes to an end. Mostly because I’m still here—breathing, moving, participating. As I know I’m on the downward slope of life, I take none of that for granted.
I am grateful that I do not have to struggle for the necessities of life: food, clothing, shelter, heat, clean water. That I do not live in a war zone. Or have to cover myself from head to toe before heading out in public. That I both can have an opinion and the freedom to voice it. I do not take any of these things for granted.
I am also very grateful for all the relationships in my life. My husband, my family, friends, my CrossFit community, my clients, and all who read, listen to, and/or watch my emails, posts, articles, podcast, and videos. I truly feel the trust, love, and support.
It is all this that has helped with the hardest part of this year. The part that’s been really sucky.
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And, while I’ve been able to be supportive, I haven’t been able to fix it. And that has left me feeling helpless. (As long as you don’t count my stepping up when she asked if I would shave her head. A truly memorable event I hope no one else experiences.)
I’ve always had difficulty asking for help. Which is strange because that’s what I need my clients to do. Unfortunately, I passed that trait on to my daughter.
But with age comes wisdom so I’m adding a new resolution for next year to go along with my usual two. In addition to “more compassion” and “less judgment”, I am adding “be open to help”.
Because it’s an act of love. Because no man is an island. Because we need each other.
So come on 2023! And Happy New Year!
- I would love to hear about the two words you’d give to 2022 and your resolutions for the New Year. Feel free to hit reply or leave them here.
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